Fat Women Shouldn’t Wear Flowers.
Being a chunky, cute, chick, it’s difficult to find clothing that is fashionable and flattering. The chunky chick has been forgotten by the design world, tossed aside to forever wear flower-print blouses, Disney character t-shirts and God forbid, spandex. Trust me, I live in a state full of women who have no fashion sense at all. Now, this isn’t to say I’m a fashionable chunky chick. Jeans and t-shirts are perfectly fine with me. But for the love of Hostess Cupcakes, fat women shouldn’t wear flowers, or Disney Character shirts.
It isn’t easy being chunky. We have the stereotype of being lazy pigs who worship the refrigerator, but this isn’t the point. Why in the hell do clothing designers assume fat women want to be so noticeable in a crowd. Take, for instance, the blouse to the right. It screams, “I am fat. Look at my love handles and fat rolls.” My mother bought a blouse for me several months ago, sheer, black, with gigantic blue flowers, of an unknown type, plastered all over the material. She also purchased a sleeveless, “shell shirt,” to wear under it, saying, “This will slim you.” No, only a diet or being bound in duct tape from the stomach down will “slim” me. The last thing I need is for the shirt to be sheer-I’m trying to hide my chunky stomach, not put it on display. Yes, the shirt is hanging in my closet, tags still attached.
Another chunky chick peeve of mine- the Disney Character t-shirt, which, for some reason, is almost always Eeyore. Why Eeyore? Because he’s sad? Because he’s fat? And why a character t-shirt? Ok, I’ll admit, I have a Hello Kitty t-shirt. But it’s Hello Kitty, not Eeyore. Eeyore is for women who haven’t a clue as to what to wear and is usually paired with black spandex bottoms of some type- another huge, no pun intended, no, no. Fat chicks, listen up. Do not wear spandex unless you’re wearing the savior of my wardrobe, stretchy jeans. Spandex only proves you have no fashion smarts, not to mention it shows every fat dimple and roll. If you’re low on cash-spandex workout, (rolling my eyes at the workout part), pants are not the answer. Buy a nice pair of stretchy jeans and wash them over and over until they fall apart. That’s when they become comfortable.
Why did I write this post? Because I’m sick of thin women. There. I said it. You can wear flower-prints and look cute. I wear flower prints and I have to wave my arms in the air to keep the bees and humming birds from pecking at me. You wear some type of cartoon character t-shirt and people think you’re adorable. I do it and people say, “Aww, she has nothing to wear.” Oh, and if any designers are reading this post- not all fat chicks are 5′11 and wear a size 10 shoe. I’m 5′5 and wear a size 7 shoe. Stop making slacks and jeans in which I have to cut off 6 inches, or I drag the ground like a monster from a horror movie. And don’t get me started on lacy, boy-cut, cutesy panties that are supposedly made for fat chicks but only roll down every 3 minutes. I’ll blow a gasket.
Preach on, girl.
One somewhat recent fashion trend that the clothing manufacturers should not encourage on generous figures is the hip-huggers. It is hard enough to find a t-shirt long enough to flow over and around and end up somewhere below the waistband (muffin tummy, anybody?) but if the durn pants don’t come up past the half-moon level anyway something is going to go wrong.
Nobody wants that.
I would like to add broad striped clothing. No one wants to look like a nautical flag.
Yeah… I don’t think ANYONE looks good in flowers. LOL and I’m not that big on grown-ups wearing cartoons characters…
Someone finally said it. Skinny women suck! If you think you have it tough, try being 5 feet 0. You should see the looks I get when I go to the petite section because all the other sizes are too long. I would have to pull regular up under my neck because of the length! I don’t have muffin top either I have a whole friggin loaf of bread. Now you got me started! Arrgh
great post! i think that as the world of fashion revolves around “self expression”, designers feel that everybody should be (loud and) proud of how they look, regardless of size. of course this doesn’t go for everybody. most people in fact are quite introvert about their appearence, especially those of a certain size. so good post, let’s hope somebody catches on eh!
Disney shirts should be outlawed for all adults. So should casual Friday. It encourages people to wear Disney and spandex. I don’t want to know what some of the people I work with look like in their personal lives. I want us all to agree to wear black or khaki pants, one-color shirts or tops, and clean shoes to work. No Disney, and NO SPANDEX. Period
haha yeah you are spot on!
Hi there. You dont know me, but i found your site while surfing the web. Great blog you have here.
Happy Easter to you and yours! Anyway, i know exactly what you mean about not being able to find cute clothes. I hate my stomach and i feel like its ALWAYS on display, so i find myself constantly wearing overly large clothing and what not to try and hide it. Such a struggle it is. Take care dear. x
Hey, now! This fat chick LOVES her Eeyore stuff!
This is a great post that totally echoes my thoughts and feelings on clothing. I want mine loose enough to be comfortable but not so big it hangs off me. I’m only 5′4″ but am considerably broader than I want to be. Nothing, I repeat NOTHING makes me look slim although some things mask the fat better. Someday I will diet and exercise it off, but it’s not today.
M
OMG you are my new best friend! When I read this I couldn’t helped but giggle and nod in agreement. It’s comforting to know there other woman out there who would go out and burn every sheer flowered cover nasty looking shirt, right along side me!! But as for horizontal stripes, I love them! I know I know, they supposedly make you look bigger, but the way I see it, people already know that I’m fat, so why not wear what I like??
you could lose some weight for christ’s sake and then you wouldn’t have this problem fatty McChunk
i mean jesus…im tired of hearing all these goddamn fatass complain about all the problems they have fitting into society…youre a fatass! thats WHY you dont FIT in society! people like you are selfish…you eat eat eat until your about to explode everyday…block doorways, take up three seats on buses, and smell like shit..always. so do yourself and all of america (or wherever your from) a favor and LOSE SOME WEIGHT
you dont have to be stick skinny to be attractive or fashionable, but if you let your body get and stay they way it is you have no room to complain. Dont bitch and moan and whine about how you’ve tried but just cant lose the wight. I know multiple people who used to be obese and have lost the weight AND KEPT IT OFF. Instead of bitching about skinny girls (who probably take care of themselves regarding fitness and eating healthy) find a way that will work for you and LOSE THE WEIGHT. If you dont care enough to better yourselves then shut the fuck up, stop complaining to the world about the problems youre too lazy to fix. Bitch and attack this post all you want, I will probably never read this page again so if you feel like its worth your time go for it.
I’m with ettarose. Except I’m an inch taller than her. Nah-nah!
Also, it’s called “Rubenesque” (let the troll above figure it out for herself) and you should be proud. Shoot, curvy is all the rage (and gorgeous!). Stand proud.
Wow. Seems 2 people may have strokes or heart attacks way before us “fat disgusting people,” due to unhealthy anger issues. The post was meant to make light of the fact, in today’s society, people who are overweight- even 10-20 pounds overweight are stereotyped and seen as being sloppy, lazy people. I’m here to say- a majority of us are not. I’m healthy, with the exception of a little rise in blood pressure due to some stress I’ve been through lately, I don’t sit on the couch and eat chips and candy all day, in fact MY problem is not eating enough-one meal a day, maybe 2. Obesity, no matter how you feel about it, can be genetic, and due to medications people are taking. So before you judge someone, find out a little about them. I dress nice, I’m not lazy, I don’t take up all the seat room and I can assure you, at this very moment I smell like Caress soap and Oil of Olay body lotion. So, I’m far from a smelly fat person. I could be cruel and call both trolls, Vomit-mouthed anorexics, but I’m not that vindictive.
LOL This post was amusing to me. Thanks for making my day.
ROFL… Flowers are indeed one of the worst thing us “non skinny’s” should be wearing.
And Ihatefatties and the other troll are just angry because they haven’t had a good meal in a while.
It isn’t so much that the people BUYING the clothes suck (example, skinny women).
It’s that the people designing , and the buyer’s for the dept. stores suck!
any one who doesn’t fit into their idea of normal range of size is out of luck!
after touring the dept. stores for a simple bra for my wife (we almost ran out of gas looking for some size 40 triple d bras) I ended up having to go where they make them special for her. For a meir . 5 times the price.
It’s as though they don’t realize bigger people exist (or don’t care). Dave
Wow Beth, you’re a nice lady. Those same sort of ‘if you’re fat you’re not human’ comments/posts make me call people ‘fucktard dingleberries’. But I’m real mean…and crazy too, plus a redneck gun-totin’ Texan. Yee Haw!
Anonymous fucktard dingleberries yet! If yer gonna start a firefight, ya gotta have the guts to own up to who ya are. Shitheads.
Anyone ever been to a store called Steinmart? My mom shops there.. It’s ground zero for sheer flower print twinsets and brightly colored capri pants. Oh, and “sensible” sandals. Every time I go home to visit, I go with her and laugh my ass off. The laughing alone is a great workout.
As a *skinny* girl I think it’s horrible to say things about any one based on their size. Bigger or smaller. I’m 5′6″ and weight about 117 pounds. It’s genetics (my parents are tiny) and I am sick of getting flack about something I can’t control. (Yes I do eat!) So while I know where you’re coming from, in general, please don’t add to the negativity out their by judging thinner women, especially by the types you see in the media.
We look bad in flowers too. And my underwear never behaves either.
Best wishes, and take care!
Girl, what I hate worse than flowers for those of us with more skin, is to see a ‘fat’ chick letting it all hang out, trying to be cool in ‘low rider jeans’ and a tube top. That is just sick to look at. I say to them . . . put that shit away, I don’t want to see it.
Common sense should dress a chunky girl. DO NOT wear clothes that are too tight fitting. I don’t care if it’s stripes or flowers, tight is not right!
Delissca
Hey,
Being that 5″10 and size 10 shoes girl, i never looked at this kind of stuff.
It was actually rather refreshing to hear it, My best friend was a “chunky chick” and I never understood why she avoided certain patterns etc.
I have to agree though with one of the previous comments… the stripes are awful. Thats the only thing i noticed.
PS, I can never find shirts that fit my torseo (Spelling?) where as its very long and shirts almost never reach the bottom of my pants. Guess we all have our own problems!
I’m with Nan. Some people can’t help being small…or big.
I’m not one to be unkind to people based on how they look or what they wear. I do, however, have a problem with big women who project their insecurities onto thinner women by assuming that we’re all shallow anorexics. And I don’t like it when people are cruel to fat people who have no control over their size.
People come in all shapes and sizes. No one is better than another based on looks. Slim women have problems too. We’re the same as big women…except that our bodies are smaller. Not all of us can fit into clothes like models.
There will always be slim women in this world. I hate to be the one to tell you this but there’s nothing you can do about it. You can hate on “skinny” girls all you want to. The truth is that society will be more open-minded towards thinner people. That shouldn’t stop big women from being smart, successful, and beautiful in their own way…no matter what anyone says. Learn to accept what cannot be helped. If your weight is not the result of an illness or genetic predisposition and it causes you to be unhappy, find a way to fix it. If you’re fine the way you are, don’t change anything.
My cousin (whose name is the same as one of the posters above…coincidence?) is one big girl with severe issues about her size. The odd part is that no one says anything bad or cruel about her being a fat person, but she acts like I’m her enemy because I’m naturally slim and she’s a size 18. I’ve had many problems in life that she is aware of. I have an abusive stepfather, I’ve had abusive relationships, I have a learning disability, and I was raped as a child. I would rather be fat than have to deal with that stuff. She had a husband who loved her and she threw it all away by having multiple affairs. She is jealous and insecure.
Not everyone is supposed to be slim and trim…this is what diversity is all about. Accept who you are and realize that no one is perfect. No one can have it all, whatever “it” is. People assume that if a woman is thin and attractive, she is without substance. I’ve been treated like this. There are many big women who have friends, families, and people who love them. There are thin women who feel unloved and lonely. Being fat doesn’t make a person worthless. Being thin doesn’t make a person cruel or “anorexic”…a term loosely thrown about by jealous people. True anorexia is horrific and no one should subject themselves to this disease.
This post was meant to be humorous. I find it really funny how defensive all the self-proclaimed thin people have become, while the not so thin people “get it.” I wasn’t slamming anyone. It goes both ways. Ever been called fat-ass in public? Ever have someone look at the food you order in a restaurant and you know they’re thinking, “Wow, she isn’t eating that much for a fat person.” Don’t take things so seriously. As I said, this was meant as a humorous post for those of us who still, day in and day out, are made fun of or discriminated against because of our weight. It exists, trust me. Lighten up- I have, which is why I was able to write the post and move on.
Hey, Beth…
no one actually became defensive with you, except the anonymous posters who left cruel comments.
My comment was directed at both camps here…the ones bashing thin AND fat people alike. Your post was indeed humorous. I don’t believe you intended it to be mean-spirited. However, there will be people who come out of the woodwork to make comments like the ones above.
And I find it funny how people can make comments like “skinny women suck” and it’s cool…but when somebody retaliates with remarks of their own, the heavy people don’t like it. I speak for myself when I say that I don’t judge people based on their size or shape. I judge people based on their attitudes and how they come across. I don’t need to “lighten up”…I’m simply speaking my mind. You’re right, it goes both ways. When people learn how to treat one another with respect, we’ll all be better off.
Beth Darling,
Your post is fab-u-lous. We all need to embrace our inner chunky chick as you do.
Josie
http://www.lifeofjosiem.com
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Actually, new Miss UK 2008 has pretty non-typical dimensions.
Maybe now world of fashion will pay attention to big size ladies.
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I do not believe this
I totally agree with you, but apparently we need to trade where we shop. I am 5′10 and I can never find pants or jeans in plus size that are tall enough. For yrs I have said hey not all big girls are short! LOL
And what is up with everything sleeveless? I don’t generally wanna show off my arms.
cognitive
what a tough topic. thanks for bringing it up